I hate to talk about subjects such as this one, let alone write a blog-post as I know it's an incredibly sensitive subject area - but I'm fuming and I'm sure there are lots of you that feel exactly the same.
I don't listen to chart music very much, a lot of the things I listen to have been released years back and even if it is current it's a specific artist. Anyway, I happened to be watching the music channel last night and I'm one of those people that picks up on lyrical content and I was genuinely disgusted. I listened to at least three songs shaming slimmer girls for not having curves, for not being attractive to guys...
I wouldn't class myself as slim, I definitely have curves and I am a massive believer in being confident within yourself whether you're a size 4 or a size 18, it doesn't matter. No one should be made to feel shit about themselves, whether they have big boobs or little boobs, a bum or no bum...it disgusts me that women feel its okay to make others feel shit about themselves just to boost their own confidence. Let's put it this way, there's a lot in the media slamming women for being bigger sizes and there's absolute outrage over it, so what on earth gives people the right to reverse the scale and shame slimmer women? A lot of people have no control over their body shape, weight or appearance - it's genetic. Obviously, you can loose weight, tone up, gain weight - but some people were born a size 6 or a size 14 and that's not their fault. Let's be honest, once boys grow up [takes a while in some cases] they all develop their own individual types and not all of them are the same as what the media portrays, some guys like taller, slimmer girls, some guys like curvier girls. Whether you have a tummy, chunky thighs...whatever, you will always be someone's type and that is such a wonderful things.
I totally understand the reason behind the lyrics to these songs, generally in the media slimmer girls are held on a pedestal over curvier women and there are a lot of celebrities that have been fighting to have curvier figures held in more regard, but that shouldn't be done through targeting smaller sized ladies. Why can't lyrics focus on being confident within your own skin, be accepting of all different shapes, sizes and races instead of pinpointing a particular type of body frame and shaming it.
Personally, I suffered from an eating disorder and people shaming each other for their weight has always resonated with me. Whether it's full on bullying or subtly, anyone made to feel insecure about themselves makes me so angry. I've mentioned in blogposts before but I think it's incredibly important for people to learn to dress for themselves, to feel confident in their own skin and that'll radiate through.
I sent a couple of tweets earlier today on this subject, but I wanted to expand my thoughts in a post. I'm not writing this to hate on anyone, I know the media is set in it's ways and it'll never be centred on producing a positive image and message to men and women. There'll always be a lack of confidence and pressure when it comes to us gals as well as guys and our body images, both put upon ourselves as well as others but it just really makes me angry that it's suddenly become a competition within lyrics as to what kind of women a guy would be more interested? Let's be honest, guys have it pretty tough too - men in the media are often shown to be in the peak of fitness and guys are just as insecure about their tummys are us gals.
All in all, I'm just trying to say that we're all equal regardless of our appearance and it's ridiculously unfair for a celebrity to promote the message of what kind of body figure is better than the other or that guys would prefer it, size shaming is disgusting. Regardless of who you are, no one ever has a right to tell you how you should look, what size you should be anything.
I'd love to hear what you think. Are you bothered, do you agree with what I mentioned in this post or disagree?
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